Dementia

Okay, so my grandpa struggled with dementia as he was getting a lot older and he would just he was super paranoid and like Irritable so there was one time where he was visiting us in colorado and all of the windows were closed obviously because it was nighttime and so He like barges into my parents room in the middle of the night and he's like Yelling at them accusing them for like trying to kill him because he was like so hot in the house So he was like why are you trying to kill me? Like I can't open the windows like are you trying to like make me burn alive in here? And it's like of course not but like dementia makes you paranoid and Like super irritable and also like he would never sleep in his bedroom He always had to sleep on the couch like right next to the window with the curtains wide open because he was scared Someone was gonna like come after him. But yeah, those are some examples

My grandma, she was diagnosed with dementia around three years ago. And I noticed when she was diagnosed with dementia, she started having memory loss. And she couldn't really remember the things that she could barely remember who I was and my name. And at first, it was very difficult to accept that because my grandma always took care of me and who loved me. And now she couldn't remember who I was and I had to take care of her, which really made me sad. And it was very hard for me to accept it. But just like the people with dementia is also the same person, like, they still are still loving human beings.

Yes, I've been working with dementia for 30 years and it varies. It can become very aggressive. People with a really lovely, polite personality can become violent. It's very sad to watch somebody with dementia, even though I stuck with it for 30 years. But the way I've always dealt with it is you need to know the character of that person and just go along with what they like. It's no point asking them questions or trying to work it out. It's just accepting that this is their condition. This is their life and the best way out is just to be there for them.