Marriage prep advice - Marriage Video Transcripts
Video 1 Transcript
Take the time to do it right. It's a lot better to wait and do it right than it is to rush in it, but at the same time, like, if you know, you know, so don't delay. Watch how your spouse or potential spouse interacts with their family, and that'll be a good indicator of how they interact with you. If they're kind to their parents, if they're kind to their siblings, because you want to see how they are around people that they're comfortable with. And so, yeah, watch how they interact with people that are closest to them in life that's not their significant other, and that'll give you a good indication.
Video 2 Transcript
This was pretty good advice that I received, is to become the person you want to marry. I wanted a person who would read scriptures, so I wanted, so I had to read my scriptures and be pretty stalwart in that. So make sure to become the person you want to marry because you don't want to be a hypocrite. Also, have fun in groups, have fun in one-on-one dates, enjoy the journey. It's not just something to get at the end of the road. Enjoy the dating life because you don't have it forever. You're only single for maybe one-fifth of your life or, I don't know, a little bit more. But, um, enjoy yourself when you're, when you're out dating. And remember that those people can become your friends. I still go on double dates with people who I didn't marry, but, um, my husband and I will go on double dates with them.
Video 3 Transcript
The biggest thing that I recommend for marriage prep is just to communi- I know, I know. Communicate with your future husband or your future wife or your future partner or whoever that you need that you are going to be married to because if you are have anxiety about marriage, if you have fears, if you have like hopes, dreams, you just need to communicate those to your partner and let them know like what is going on in your head because if not, like things just won't mesh and people will be and you will just like get upset and have like unreasonable like expectations for what your marriage will be like and the really important thing is just to communicate with your your future spouse.
Video 4 Transcript
Your spouse's behavior will likely be a little worse after you're married than before you're married. People put on their best selves, so just realize that if there is a red flag or an issue that you think could be really serious or problematic, just to keep that in mind in choosing your spouse. Also, I think it's good to be patient with yourself and with your spouse, realizing that neither of you are perfect, and that as long as you're willing to be patient with each other and to forgive and to keep trying, things can work out wonderfully, and you'll grow together over time, and it'll be marvelous.
Video 5 Transcript
Search out what kind of person you want to marry, what kind of person you could marry. This is how I did it, and it worked very well for me, but I know it's different for every person, so I can't tell everyone the same. But this is how it worked for me, is I thought about it logistically, I chose someone, and then once you figure it out logistically and you think about it would be the right choice, then you can ask the Lord if it's His will, and then once you pray about it and it feels right in all those ways, then you can let your heart go and then fall in love. That's the best part.
Video 6 Transcript
Obviously, if you're going to be happy in a successful marriage, you need to learn to be happy alone. A marriage is not a magic bullet to make you happy. It doesn't work that way. You're still the same kind of person you are after you get married. But with that being said, being married is one of the best things, the best joys in life. I am much more selfless than I was when I was single. I look out for another person. I've had to sacrifice in multiple ways, including sacrificing some of my ambitions and my dreams to be able to make a marriage and it's been wonderful. I have gained so much. I've become a better person. I love being married.
Video 7 Transcript
I think one of the best ways to prepare for marriage is to go canoeing and see how you guys interact together while you're trying to make a canoe go.
Video 8 Transcript
The best marriage prep advice I got was actually from my marriage prep professor in college and it was to do your homework about the other person. Experience as many different experiences as you can, meet their friends, push each other to expand and truly let your true selves out and do your homework. There is a red flag, talk about it, discuss it, but don't let any leaf unturned.
Video 9 Transcript
I'm a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and one of our church leaders said something that was super impactful that I've remembered for years, and they said that two people, if they're both willing to make the relationship work, can make a relationship work. Everybody has faults, everybody has problems, but if you're willing to make the relationship work and to help overcome or overlook maybe some of the faults that are not really that big of a deal, and the other person's willing to do the same, you can make a marriage work out, even if you hit roadblocks, because you will. And so don't be afraid to commit to a relationship, and if you know that it's right or there's all your major indicators have been hit, then go for it.
Video 10 Transcript
First, you must be able to admit that you need to serve God better. Second, do whatever it takes to study, learn up, and come unto Jesus Christ and become more like Him. Third, make sure that your physical, social, mental, and emotional facets are up to speed, the best that they can be. And last but not least, make sure that you are ready to overcome any trials and challenges that will come with her entering into your life. Because they will increase in frequency and veracity. So if you're not prepared to endure even harder trials, find out what you can do to learn how to be prepared to overcome those trials.
Video 11 Transcript
One of the things me and my husband did before we got married was take a marriage prep class seminar type of thing. This was really helpful for us because we were a little older when we got married but we also didn't date very long. We dated for about like six, five months before we got engaged. But the seminar helped us to really talk about some of the things that we probably wouldn't have even thought to talk about before we got married. And some of those topics are really important like finances, like typical things like that, but also sex and things that you wouldn't always think about talking about. But those are things that are really important to talk about before you do get married.
Video 12 Transcript
Getting prepped for marriage can be a really stressful time. You know, it can be months of just kind of headaches, trying to sort everything out. But you just have to trust that it's going to work out. Everything is going to be better than you expect it to be. And so you just need to take it easy, relax, and enjoy the time that you have. Make good memories with your future spouse, and record them so you can remember them and look back on those experiences. And remember those good experiences and those good memories that you created as you were preparing for your wedding.
Video 13 Transcript
Go on dates with lots of different people and, you know, go on as many dates as you can to get to know so many people and find out whether you get along with them or not. And I think sometimes we set too high of expectations for just going on a date with someone, but I think really a first date, you're just getting to know someone and making friends with them. It doesn't have to be romantic or anything extravagant, right? You're just trying to see if you guys click or not. Sometimes once we are in a committed relationship, it's hard to commit all the way. I think our tendency is to keep one foot out of the pool of water because we don't want to get hurt and we're afraid of letting someone in who can hurt us. But I think when we get to that point, we just need to jump in the pool and get wet all over and just, you know, choose to commit to someone all the way.
