A hard experience that we've had is when my mom was diagnosed with cancer. I took that really hard and it wasn't anything within our marriage necessarily, but the strain that it put on both of us emotionally was really hard and relying on each other in such a different way really helped us grow and develop in ways that I didn't expect.
My hardest experience being married is losing ties with my friends, because the majority of my friends before I got married were of the opposite sex. It was kind of hard when I realized after I got married that you can't really hang out with them, because it's just not the same, and also I found out that the majority of them had different intentions and feelings. So as soon as I got married, they weren't really interested in being my friend anymore. So my advice is for all you tomboyish girls, definitely look into having girlfriends, because they won't leave you when you get married. This was my advice.
The hardest experience is when the opposite spouse projects the identity of someone who has wronged them in the past onto you.
Marriage is wonderful, and I think some of the hardest experiences of marriage are the adjustment. When you get married, you have to adjust to a new life living with someone, and also adjusting to your in-laws, adjusting to the new way of life, adjusting to a new way that you do basically everything. So I think adjusting is one of the most difficult ways, because we know that we expect things to change, but sometimes you don't expect how it will change. And so for me personally, just getting to know a new way of doing things, and you have to be humble. Have to be humble and accept a new way of living, and it's wonderful.