Encouragement

One of my life mottos is every failure is closer to success and I think especially in dating that's true. Every rejection is that much closer to success and every date you go on makes you a better dater. It makes you better with social situations, it makes you better able to know what you're looking for in a relationship and so obviously there's going to be heartbreaks but life is about experiences and you want to experience all that there is to experience so if you are failing you got to keep trying. I think that's what everybody says but you take breaks sometimes but you have to fail a lot of times to succeed and it may seem like some people just walk right into success but for me that's not how it works. You got to fail in dating in order to succeed.

Video 2 Transcript

Get to know the other person by asking them lots of questions, finding out where they like to go, what they like to do, and maybe finding some similar things that you like. Try not to downgrade yourself or feel less than what you feel worth. I think it's really important to smile, have a great time. If you make a mistake or be goofy or silly, I think that's okay because that's who you are. Even if you're nervous. I think that he will be just as nervous as you because he wants to get to know you and he doesn't want to lose you because he thinks you're interesting to get to know. And so it's most important not only to see the outside, but to see the inside of your heart. And that means to have faith and to have Christ and have the spirit with you. Because if you do, you will be inspired.

Video 3 Transcript

Dating can be brutal at times. I think all of us have experienced and go through different times where it just seems like no one's interested and we couldn't find anyone interested, but the truth is we just got to go through those moments. We got to go through the hard breakups. We have to go on those bad dates, awkward dates, because every time we go on those dates and the more times we spend around different people, the more time we're spending learning about what we like, what works well with us and how we can continually just become a better boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, whatever it is. You can become better in your role to help the other person because you know what you like, what's good, what's not. So just remember that every breakup, every heartache is just a step closer to finding that one person that you love and that's going to help you just find true happiness.

Video 4 Transcript

Okay, this is for all the ladies out there that have been through an abusive relationship, toxic, abusive in any way, shape or form, emotional, physical, financial, anything that's degrading to a human person considered abuse. It does get better and you will get through this. While it's hard at first and it's probably the most awful thing your heart and your mind have wrestled with, it will get better and you will be on top of the world if you can just see a bigger picture for yourself. It is incredible where you can find yourself landed once you see yourself released from that toxic relationship. You will be happy, you will be joyous and you will have a love for life because you will have a new sense of independence and love for yourself. You've got this.

Video 5 Transcript

Dating can be very hard and it can be very discouraging when you have multiple relationships in a row that are super negative or super toxic or just bad experiences overall. But just know that it just takes one. If that's your goal to get married, it just takes one person and to keep trying. And if that person didn't work out, that's okay. There's someone else you can try again. That it's not the end all just because your relationship ended or is over or you were treated poorly. There's always going to be someone better out there for you. Hopefully you can find that person and be with them forever.

Video 6 Transcript

So I think one of the tragic things is when it comes to dating is a lot of guys are very shy and nervous about talking to a girl that's cute because they probably have a boyfriend or they're not going to talk with me or whatever it may be. And I think that's a shame because I think a lot of guys that are feeling this way are really top genuine guys who have a shot at this type of thing. So my encouragement for anybody watching that's in this type of situation is to do your best to go talk to this person. You know, if they're in a group, just kind of mingle your way into the group and start chatting and then eventually you'll have a chance to chat with them and then maybe that could go somewhere. But yeah, just be yourself. And I think, you know, being yourself is the best possible thing you can do in that type of situation.

Video 7 Transcript

Ah, encouragement. Um, I think it's very possible to waste your time in the pursuit of an individual. Like, uh, you know, if there's somebody you really like and you're trying to make something happen with them, but I maintain you will never waste your time in the pursuit of becoming something, uh, better in pursuit of, uh, making your some yourself something and something worth marrying. You will never waste your time in that pursuit because you're always just going to be making yourself better and gearing yourself up for setting yourself up for a happier life.

Video 8 Transcript

In dating, if you have a really bad date or even a relationship that kind of goes bad and has like awkward things, I actually get a good story out of it that you can laugh about and tell your roommates. And if things go really well, then congrats, like good for you.

Video 9 Transcript

You know, everyone's willing to give you dating advice. Everyone's willing to tell you, oh, this is, you know, I'm married and this is how I had my own dating journey. And that's all good. You know, they're just trying to be helpful. But I think something that's important to remember is that no one has ever lived your life before and no one has ever had your specific dating experience. So it's okay to try to do something different. It's okay to not do what people are telling you to do because that's what worked for them. There are definitely some principles of like, you know, keeping high standards, uh, being safe and having fun, but you don't always have to listen to what other people are saying. It's okay to, you know, try to discover what your personal journey is and what's right.

Video 10 Transcript

The best thing I can say is just like don't stress about like now and the end like now and having a person you're with. Sorry I just walked up the hill so it's a little tiring. If one day it doesn't go well and it's done with that that individual just try to find one more like don't worry about the end as much.

Video 11 Transcript

For any of you who may be struggling to find your special someone, you know, just trust that God knows you personally, that He loves you, and that He can guide you to someone who's right for you. And so I would seek to improve yourself in every way you can, physically, emotionally, intellectually, socially, spiritually, and then pray and follow guidance that God might give you to where you're where to find your sweetheart. And just don't give up. Realize that you have incredible potential. And even if you were to be single all of your life, there are incredible things that you can do being single that you wouldn't be able to do as easily being married. Also, just know that that I love you, that there are thousands of people who love you and think you are wonderful.

Video 12 Transcript

I swear I've been out with like half the dating pool and at BYU and just none of it has worked. But I just met, well I didn't just meet, but I've been dating this guy now for a while and he's everything I wanted and so just be patient. Keep going and don't settle and don't just date a guy and get with a guy for the sake of relationship and wait for the right guy that you're actually crazy about because it's way more fun that way.

Video 13 Transcript

There have been points where I felt very, like, discouraged by dating, but now that I'm, like, not part of that phase of life, at least the dating random people portion, I do look back and I'm glad that it happened because I wouldn't have, like, known what I wanted unless I had experienced maybe things that I didn't want. And so now I get to live the rest of my life with exactly what I want because I had the experience that I needed to find that. And so a lot of times there is a lot of, like, good stuff found in the discouragement, so hopefully that is encouraging. Helps you keep going.

Video 14 Transcript

You know, dating can be very discouraging, you know, we sometimes think we're forever away from our goal of finding love. I would say, the attitude to have is, think of yourself as like always in the middle, you know, like you're not at the start of your journey, you're not at the end, you know, yet, obviously, but like, you're in the middle somewhere. And even when you find love, you gotta keep it up, you know, to keep it alive. So, always in the middle, the middle is a comfortable place to be, and, you know, if you think about it, not to be all philosophical, but it's pretty much the only place we ever are, right?

Video 15 Transcript

Just because he doesn't text you after or call you or whatever does not mean you do not have value and also doesn't mean that the date didn't go well. Even if the date does doesn't go well, you are amazing, you have value, and don't give up. Like, everyone has a bad day. I've had so many bad dates and, you know, you just got to remember to be yourself and, you know, the right person will come in the right time. Honestly, like, don't don't get nervous about it. They were really cute, they were really nice, you know. Okay, eventually you'll end up with the person that you need to be with and you don't need to worry about it, truly.

Video 16 Transcript

There's a length of time about oh a year and a half ago I would say where yeah I just was not having a lot of like good experiences with dating. Most girls didn't last more than like a date or two. I think what I learned throughout all of that is it's okay to have to wait. Do all that you can in your life to try to keep your hope up. It doesn't have to be like in that realm. It could be either by you going and working hard in like your all your classes to like make sure you're on top of that and working towards you know a positive in your life or whatever it might be.

Video 17 Transcript

So I wanted to encourage you to always be honest with yourself, always be honest with your feelings and know exactly what you want to do with whoever you're dating or whoever you want to date or whoever you want to get to know. Always seek for guidance by prayer and listen. I think that a lot of times when we go to events or go on single dates or double dates, um, sometimes it can be awkward, but most of the time it will be fun if you plan it, if you organize it with the group and get everybody's idea and everybody's input. I think, um, it's hard getting to know people, but I think if you're an activity that you both like, you can get to know each other really well because you both love that activity and, um, that will give you the encouragement to keep going and to get to know that person.

Video 18 Transcript

It's easy to feel discouraged with dating, but something I've learned is that you can learn from every date you go on, and all of this experience that you're receiving will just make you even more prepared to meet your future person. So keep going, you got this!