Video 1 Transcript
Boys, it's so important that you become who you want to be in order to find what you're looking for. A lot of times we focus on finding the right person, start focusing on becoming the right person.
Dating advice for men - Dating Video Transcripts
Video 2 Transcript
One of the biggest pieces of advice that I would give for men is to just get creative with dates. It doesn't need to be super fancy or super complicated. The best dates I've ever been on have been simple, creative, and don't require a lot of money. And so I almost try to make it as cheap as I can because it usually ends up more fun and more creative that way.
Video 3 Transcript
The most life-changing piece of advice that I got in terms of dating is to think the entire time about how she is feeling. Make sure that your entire focus is on her, right? You are making sure that she feels comfortable. You are making sure that she feels that she can express herself. You're listening intently, especially on the first date. The entire time it should almost be an exhausting experience of how much you're just like, I want to make sure that that she is happy. That she is having a rewarding experience. And then as you continue on in the dating experience, obviously you have to kind of parse out your own feelings and whatnot. But like, during that first date is not the time to do that. You were focused on her. You were making sure you were honoring her as a woman. And then it's just going to turn out great. If you get off the date and you're like, you know, now I'm reflecting on that. I gave her a nice time, but it wasn't, it wasn't, it's all right.
Video 4 Transcript
One piece of dating advice that I have for men is to be thoughtful, even when it's not like a special occasion. You obviously can get a girl flowers on her birthday or on Christmas, I don't know, those special occasions, but it's like even more meaningful when it's on just a random day. Just doing like little things that will let her know that you're thinking about her. I think girls really appreciate when guys are thoughtful, just because.
Video 5 Transcript
So my dating advice for men, I would say, you know, first up, be super respectful of your date and of what they ask you to do. Do not pressure them to do anything. Be super kind and respectful. Don't do physical things that you know you shouldn't do until you're married. And also, on the other side of dating, I would say look for someone who inspires you to be the best person, who is just a good, good person. Try to marry someone for their qualities of kindness and love and doing what's right and being happy. That's what I would recommend. And I would say more importantly, strive to become the person that you want to marry, the kind of person that you want to marry. So if you want someone who's, you know, athletic, then you better be athletic. If you want someone who is kind, you better be kind.
Video 6 Transcript
Tip I heard that I've found to be helpful when dating is to just like go in there confident and like don't don't feel like you have to make it amazing for them like you're also there to find out if if you're not hosting them it's kind of a mutual thing so go into the date with this attitude of like I'm gonna be nice and respectful but I'm also trying to know if I like them as much as they like me so just like be yourself but don't don't feel bad if it's not the best like that's okay just go in confident and come out knowing that it was okay
Video 7 Transcript
So when I was on the internet, I had a question and that was, what is one thing or two things that you would take if you were on a deserted desert island? And it was very interesting to hear different men say different thoughts about what they thought that they would have. And it kind of gave me a little idea about them. If I really wanted to kind of pursue them or not, if they were like, their answer was something that appealed to me. But questions are most important. You can't just sit there. Questions is how you get to know who you're dating. And you know, questions, if you like, are doing like a cooking date, you know, asking questions like, what have you cooked before? What is your favorite food? Have you, have you made your favorite food? Asking all different kinds of questions is really important because you can truly get to know the person, personality, temperament, and just who they are.
Video 8 Transcript
My number one tip for a first date for a boy is to make it short and sweet. If you go on a date and it keeps dragging on longer and then you ask the girl you're like let me know when you want to get home like I can take you home the girl isn't going to be like oh I want to get home because then that sounds rude and it just puts her in a really awkward situation so something that stands out to me is like super attractive that a guy does is if he takes you on a date he picks you up on time you don't ever want to be early and you don't ever want to be late you want to be like if you say fives they come to like 501 so if you pick her up on time you're a gentleman the whole time but another thing is like you get her back very quickly so you provide an opportunity so she can see like a glimpse of you and then you're gone so then it leaves her wanting more and it also makes her wonder the entire night whether you're into her or you're not into her because it ended so soon and then she's always thinking about you until you ask her on a second day
Video 9 Transcript
Just call a girl, don't text, calls are better, get to the point, and don't play games.
Video 10 Transcript
I know my tips or like my dating advice for men might seem a little two-sided. I think girls could also benefit from this advice but I would really highly encourage communication. Just be honest and I know you hear that a lot but genuinely like if you want a real relationship with someone or just to be kind, like people want honesty and vulnerability and so if you don't want to go out with someone anymore, tell them. Yeah, it may hurt. I went through a breakup and I wish the guy would have told me like, hey I'm not into this anymore instead of feeding me a bunch of lies. And then also when things are actually real, like if you're not emotionally available, then it's not a cop-out answer. So just communicate.
Video 11 Transcript
I think some dating advice that I would give to men would be first, take the initiative. Like I know it can be hard, but just asking a girl out and then also just making sure that you are making a plan. It doesn't have to be something too crazy. Like a first date should be very simple. An activity or something where you get to know, where you get to know the person or get to actually show some of maybe some of the things that you like to do. So I think keep it simple, but take the initiative. And also don't forget to be a gentleman. Like us girls love when you guys open the door or just like actually listen to us when we're talking and being on time. I think that's something that's also important. I know sometimes girls can take a while to get ready, but showing that you're there on time can really make a difference. So I think that would be the advice I would give.
Video 12 Transcript
Hello men. One piece of dating advice I have is to be consistent. I would say don't like do huge displays of affection like try to win her over at the beginning and then just like be like okay cool like if she starts dating you're like okay cool whatever like I've won her over that was that and then just like be really lazy that's just kind of it's a bad move and it's another thing is have like good expectations so I I just experienced this a lot guys they seem to get really over eager I guess is the way to put it pretty early on and they'll try to kind of move things along too quickly um just go with the girl's pace and understand that things take time
Video 13 Transcript
I have a perfect mind that it works when we all be faithful, truthful to each other. I know that indeed we are all one and we need to love one another with such a great heart. We should have a focused mind to do everything in life to achieve and progress in this life so that our maker God will be happy with us. I know what I said is true.
Video 14 Transcript
Some of the best dating advice is just to be your absolute self from the very beginning. If you try to put on a show and be someone who you're really not at the beginning, the person who you're dating may end up liking or even falling in love with a person that's not you because you're not being yourself. So if you just be yourself and be authentic from the very beginning, you know, being you is enough and eventually you'll find someone who appreciates you for who you are. And when you do, you know that that's your person and you should pursue a relationship with that person. But you shouldn't be trying to put on a facade to try to attract people who don't appreciate the real you.
Video 15 Transcript
The girl I'm currently dating actually asked me out first, which is awesome, but not always common. My advice would be, just like, get the courage and go and do it, because girls want to be asked out. And have a good time, like, just be yourself, but like, yeah, just ask them out, have the confidence for that, and it'll be worth it.
Video 16 Transcript
Quick dating advice. One is know your strengths. Know a couple of your strengths, the best things that you have to offer a relationship, and then have an understanding of what some coordinating complementary strengths would be in a woman that would be good for you. So people do say opposites attract, but if you think about a strength like positivity or being optimistic, then the opposite of that would be negative or pessimistic, and I don't think you want to be in a relationship with someone who's negative or pessimistic. So what would be a coordinating complement might be someone who's pragmatic or practical to match your enthusiasm and positivity.
Video 17 Transcript
Okay guys, here is some dating advice. Be creative, my husband-to-be. Our first date was he texted me in Pirate Talk. I texted him back saying yes I'll go out with you. We dressed up, we went out to dinner on not really a pirate ship but a restaurant and also found buried treasure. It's like how you look at it. You want to do things that you love to do. If you love dressing up, see if your date wants to dress up. If you love to go out to like all fish restaurants, have like a fish restaurant each night and just do one thing at each different restaurant. Just be creative and just think about what you like to do. If you just stay in your houses or whatever, it's going to be boring and the way to get to know each other is to get out and go do something even if it doesn't cost anything. It's like going to the park or having a picnic. It's important just to get out.
Video 18 Transcript
Plan specific dates. Girls like it when you have a plan instead of just saying, I don't know, what do you want to do? Have a specific plan and go on a date and the rest just works.
Video 19 Transcript
Some dating advice I would give to guys is to make sure you always open her door and just always like make it known that you're gonna pay for her because sometimes we don't know and we like it's just kind of awkward so always just like let them know.
Video 20 Transcript
My dating advice for men, and this comes from a married man, calm down, okay? Just chill. I know, I know she's cute, I know she laughs at what she talks about, but calm down a little bit. You do not have to be the most extra person ever. You also don't have to marry the person you meet and decide that you're going to marry within a week or a month, okay? Take your time, get to know them, get to know their expectations, date them for at least six months or more before you decide to get married. Like, y'all, this place is nuts. Calm down.
Video 21 Transcript
So, in my experience, most of, like, success in dating is determined by kind of stuff going on behind the scenes, like, you know, making yourself into a desirable option. So guys, what I would recommend doing is just look for what the opposite sex actually wants and cultivate those qualities in yourself. If that means kind of taking a backseat and not really dating actively for a while, then so be it.
Video 22 Transcript
Be yourself, but be the best version of yourself. Put yourself together. Like, if you're going to pick her up in your car, make sure your car is clean. Plan on taking interest in the things that she's interested in. Put your best foot forward to see what connections you can find. And just do your best to try not to let you be the reason that maybe a date doesn't go super well. Sometimes people just don't have chemistry. Sometimes people are just not meant to be, and that's okay. But, like, take inventory of what you're trying to do. You're responsible for someone's safety and enjoyment and entertainment for an evening or for a weekend, whatever it is. So just do your best. And I feel like you kind of know what that looks like. It looks a little bit different for everybody. But strive for it. Hit it. Put your best foot forward.
Video 23 Transcript
Always remain pure in heart and mind. Give your significant other something that she can look forward to, somebody who's going to be wholesome with her, someone who's going to love and adore her. Don't always make it about the physical aspect of your relationship. It really needs to be something that is tender, that she feels tenderly loved and sincerely appreciated.
Video 24 Transcript
text the night before the date and then maybe call the day of to confirm it so like forgetful girls like me can remember and always always open her car door
Video 25 Transcript
For a guy, the advice I would give is to be yourself, be genuine, be sweet, you know, do things like open the door, you know, show some manners, but at the same time, expect the girl to do things on her end, because if you're always doing that type of stuff, you're not getting anything back. That's not a relationship. That's just service, and that's not what you want. At the same time, do not take disrespect, you know, just because you like someone a lot, you might be more willing to put up with them being rude, calling you names, yelling at you. Do not let that happen. Okay, your relationship is supposed to be something where both people love each other and are caring. You shouldn't be disrespectful to each other. Obviously, you're going to have bad moments, things are going to happen. But you got to be able to stand up for yourself and say when things are not okay with you. Because we know girls can have kind of an attitude, especially when compared to guys. But don't just take disrespect and rudeness and anger for no reason.
Video 26 Transcript
I know that this can sometimes seem a little bit old-fashioned, but I would say that opening the door for the girls that you go on dates with is always a good idea. And lots of girls don't really have that knowledge that you're gonna open the door for them, so I always like to be like, hey I'll grab your door real quick like when we're getting out of the car, just so she knows not to already get out on her own. And it really does make a big difference. It shows them that they are important to you and that you really care about treating them well.
Video 27 Transcript
It's nice to be nice to girls, but you don't want to be overly nice. You just want to be like cool, relaxed, and calm. It can be, I know it's really hard, and it definitely took me a long time to get over, but just don't act like you don't care, but don't act like you're madly in love with them. Just be cool. You're there to have fun with them. It's just a date. You're not looking to be married yet, so just until you get to that point, just relax. It'll all be great.
Video 28 Transcript
Be yourself. Sounds really simple, but it's a little tempting to, I don't know, put on a show or try and convince the person that you're someone who you're actually not. So, just be yourself. Everything will go great.
Video 29 Transcript
Okay, so I've got some dating advice for the guys out here. If you're going on a first date, make it like an hour, like maybe hour 15. Do something short and leave the girl wanting more because then she'll want to go on a second date with you once you ask her. And if you don't like her, then you've only taken an hour out of your day and you don't have to waste any more of your time.
Video 30 Transcript
Okay, I have three tips for you guys out there. Call the girl to ask her on a date. Don't text her or... And don't ask for her snapchat or her Instagram as the first thing that you say. Ask for her number. Second, open her... Oh, actually come to the door to get her and then open her door. And then third, give her a hug when you leave. Don't just say like bye. Like get out of the car, give her a hug. It means a lot for a girl. Maybe it doesn't make a difference for a guy, but that's a big thing for a girl.