Borderline Personality Disorder

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Borderline Personality Disorder Blogs

Here’s a list of Borderline Personality Disorder blogs- blogs written by people with BPD, or about BPD.

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Time to Change	time-to-change.org.uk	2017
BPDOrchid	bpdorchid.blogspot.com	2017
Life in a Bind	lifeinabind.com	2017
Living with Borderline Personality Disorder	borderlinebabble.com	2017
More Than Borderline	healthyplace.com	2016
BPD Central	bpdcentral.com	2015
Life After BPD	mybpdstory.wordpress.com	2013
Pure BPD	infinitesadnessorhope.wordpress.com	2013

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Borderline Personality Disorder Survey

We’re surveying people about their experiences with Borderline Personality Disorder. Here will be a collection of their responses.

*This information is not meant to replace medical advice, and the information gathered via surveys may or may not be correct. Hopefully it will be helpful to you!

*Response format = Answer (Name, Age)

**Click here to share your experience with Borderline Personality Disorder**

Borderline Personality Disorder Symptoms

What symptoms have you experienced?

Mood Swings, Disassociation, Hallucinations, Depression, Not knowing who I am, Suicidal thoughts. (Tamara, 17 years old)
Intense mood swings, self harm, suicidal thoughts and suicide attempts. Idolizing and then devaluing people. I act inwards instead of outwards, harming myself rather than others. Impulsiveness. (Shannon, 21 years old)
Paranoia, black and white mindset, unwarranted fury, self harm, risky behaviors, etc. (Verity, 23 years old)
I fit all of the nine criteria. Depression, self harm/suicide, intense relationships, abandonment issues, impulse control with everything and so on. (Sam, 23 years old)
All nine of the diagnostic criteria. (Sophie, 25 years old)
Impulsiveness, mood swings, self harm, reckless spending etc. (Kayleigh, 27 years old)
All of them (the 9 criteria of bpd). (Lisa, 29 years old)
Major mood swings, mood can change in seconds, go from one extreme to the next, feel angry all the time, suicidal all the time, withdraw myself from everyone regularly, feel frustrated, speak without thinking, says things how it is, regular outbursts of aggression, have a small group of friends and am single due to not trusting anyone, and struggling to form relationships, resent people who hurt me, ruminate on things constantly, outlook is always negative, see myself in a negative way all the time, low self esteem, lack confidence but come across confident (an act) but usually aggressive, suffer with severe depression and anxiety, allow men to use me for sex to feel wanted, but then feel rubbish and dirty later then the cycle starts again, overreact to things, paranoia, read to much into things and jump to conclusions, always think the worst. (Emma, 31 years old)
Loneliness, wanting to die, wanting to hurt myself, being depressed. I sometimes feel I’m not worth it. (Lynette S., 31 years old)
Insecurity, loss of identity, difficulty building relationships, self esteem issues, mood swings, far too many to name. (Haylea, 32 years old)
Impulsivity, depression, anxiety, addiction, suicide attempts and constant thought about suicide. Self harm, extreme fear of abandonment, unhealthy/unstable relationships, no sense of self. Black and white thinking. Love or hate- no in between- same as all or nothing. I can never just give part of me. Lots more, but I’m drawing a blank. (Jewel, 33 years old)
Impulsivity, difficult relationships, dissociation…and all of them. (MP, 35 years old)
Self harm behavior, low moods, dissociation, suicidal thoughts, frequent change in moods, drug misuse. (Nina, 35 years old)
Emotional, anxiety, insecurity, social awkwardness. (Beverly, 35 years old)
Intense emotions, easily frustrated and angry, fear of abandonment and rejection, self harm, not knowing who I am and self hate. (Lynnea, 36 years old)
Severe mood swings, fear of rejection, splitting and fear of abandonment. (Amanda R., 37 years old)
Self harm, suicidal thoughts, feeling emotionally wrecked. (Michelle, 39 years old)
Depression, manic episodes, paranoia, unwarranted fury, hypersexual behavior, mental paralysis. (Charolette, 42 years old)
Mood swings, depression, self harm, eating disorder, OCD, anxiety, etc. (Sarah, 44 years old)
Very bad mood swings, severe anxiety, depression. Everything in my life is all good or all bad. Suicidal ideation–thinking things would be better/easier if I were gone. Self hate. Feeling like I’m not really here. Immense guilt for having all of this junk. (Christi, 45 years old)

Borderline Personality Disorder Facts

What interesting facts have you learned about Borderline Personality Disorder?

That it existed, and never knew before. (Tamara, 17 years old)
It’s not fun. (Verity, 23 years old)
That people with BPD are very passionate people. (Sophie, 25 years old)
It makes you love harder and can help with creativeness. (Kayleigh, 27 years old)
We love harder than anyone else. It’s not an actual mental illnesses because it can be treated with dbt instead of medication. It’s only called mental illness because it needed to fit into a box. (Lisa, 29 years old)
I learn what is it. BPD people are brave people who survive mental pain. (Lynette S., 31 years old)
That I’m not alone in it and although it may not be common, a lot of the symptoms are. (Haylea, 32 years old)
So many more people deal with BPD than I thought. Being BPD has given me all the amazing traits about myself that I love, and that make me who I am. Like the ability to just love whole heartedly. Being so empathetic. Being someone people can relate to. Being non-judgmental. Being charming, fun and passionate. I think I would be a much more boring person if I didn’t have BPD. I have learned to embrace it and make it positive, and I understand myself so much more now that I understand BPD. It’s not all bad and what’s not bad is really, really good! My life is a wonderful adventure because of BPD. (Jewel, 33 years old)
That we are passionate, we are very good in crises when everyone else panics, because we actually have a very developed survival instinct. (MP, 35 years old)
There are high functioning and low functioning. (Amanda R., 37 years old)
That doctors are afraid of it. (Charolette, 42 years old)
That my moods can change from one minute to the next. (Sarah, 44 years old)
I think it’s an illness no one will ever understand. (Christi, 45 years old)

Borderline Personality Disorder Difficulties

What are the most difficult aspects of living with Borderline Personality Disorder?

My relationships and how I don’t feel normal. (Tamara, 17 years old)
Mood swings and impulsiveness. (Shannon, 21 years old)
My emotions. (Verity, 23 years old)
Everything. How everything seems so difficult some days, and how you feel like a failure because everyone else is managing fine. (Sam, 23 years old)
Self destructive urges and co-morbid conditions. (Sophie, 25 years old)
Not trusting people, mood swings and reckless spending. (Kayleigh, 27 years old)
Managing anger because I was never taught the proper way to express my negative emotions. (Lisa, 29 years old)
Forming relationships and controlling emotions. I hate not knowing what mood I’m going to be in when I wake up, or do something. (Emma, 31 years old)
Umm.. I have BPD. (Lynette S., 31 years old)
That it is a daily struggle knowing who I am, what I want, feeling insignificant all the time. (Haylea, 32 years old)
Black and white thinking. Suicide and thought of suicide, which is pretty much constant for me. Every day it’s a constant whisper and some days it’s full out screaming at me. People don’t understand, and people actually get really scared to talk to me. (Jewel, 33 years old)
The depression, the paranoia sometimes drives people away. (MP, 35 years old)
Lows and highs changing of my emotions quickly. (Nina, 35 years old)
Personal relationships. (Beverly, 35 years old)
I would say the intense emotions and fear of abandonment. (Lynnea, 36 years old)
The fear of abandonment and rejection. (Amanda R., 37 years old)
Trying to cope day to day. (Michelle, 39 years old)
That doctors are uneducated and ill-informed. (Charolette, 42 years old)
Irrational thoughts masquerading as rational thoughts. (Missy, 42 years old)
Relationship/trust issues. (Sarah, 44 years old)
My self loathing, impulsivity, and lashing out at others. (Christi, 45 years old)

Borderline Personality Disorder Advice

What words of encouragement/advice can you share with others who have Borderline Personality Disorder?

It will always get better. (Tamara, 17 years old)
Keep strong, and keep going because things can, and will get better for you. (Shannon, 21 years old)
We can do this. (Sam, 23 years old)
That we are worthy of being loved despite how we otherwise feel about ourselves. (Sophie, 25 years old)
It gets easier, there are positives in negatives. (Kayleigh, 27 years old)
If you practice your dbt skills you can totally live a happy, healthy, and ‘normal’ life. (Lisa, 29 years old)
To not let it beat you. There’s more to you than this disorder. (Emma, 31 years old)
This will not last forever. (Lynette S., 31 years old)
Although there are massive downers, there are massive positives of having this disorder too. (Haylea, 32 years old)
You are amazing! Give yourself credit even when other people don’t or can’t. I put up notes and pictures, and my kids do it for me to do that when I feel like it’s the end. I have sweet, positive reminders of why I’m the amazing person I am, and why I can’t leave just yet. It really helps. Talk about it with people! You will be surprised at how many people you will come across who also live with BPD. You will also be surprised at how unashamed you will become when the right dialog is made with important people in your life who also live with secrets about mental illness. People you would never have expected. (Jewel, 33 years old)
It helps if you know as much as you can about BPD. (MP, 35 years old)
It will get better with age. (Nina, 35 years old)
Actively be aware of your emotions and responses. (Beverly, 35 years old)
Find a support group that understands what you feel and the things you are going through. (Lynnea, 36 years old)
Do not Google it. (Amanda R., 37 years old)
Be your own advocate for your mental health care. There are those out there that will help you. Find them. (Charolette, 42 years old)
Take each day as it comes, don’t put too much pressure on yourself. (Sarah, 44 years old)
It’s extremely rare, but there are people out there who legitimately listen to you, and know your feelings are real. And that it doesn’t all stem from negativity. (Christi, 45 years old)

Borderline Personality Disorder Diet and Exercise

What’s been your experience with diet and exercise?

Go from never eating to eating too much, and rarely exercise. (Tamara, 17 years old)
I struggle with bulimia because of my BPD. I compulsively diet and exercise, but then impulsively binge and purge. (Shannon, 21 years old)
Terrible lack of self discipline… I try and always fail. (Verity, 23 years old)
I’m awful with both. (Sam, 23 years old)
Very bad. I have suffered from eating disorders for 12 years. (Sophie, 25 years old)
I’m lazy. (Kayleigh, 27 years old)
Good diet and exercise helps. Healthy body, healthy mind. (Lisa, 29 years old)
Rubbish. Have an awful limited diet of very unhealthy foods. Due to my moods and depression have no motivation to cook or exercise. Due to not being able to work at the moment sometimes can’t afford to buy food. (Emma, 31 years old)
I want to swim. (Lynette S., 31 years old)
I think I have, and always had, an eating disorder. Not consciously, but I barely eat. I always feel better after exercise. (Haylea, 32 years old)
It’s very hard to keep on track. I stay in bed sometimes for a week or more, and then when I’m up I’m so active. It’s really hard to get a routine going. (Jewel, 33 years old)
I have a good metabolism so I don’t need that, also I don’t have enough discipline. (MP, 35 years old)
Can’t be bothered like to eat more healthy, but can’t afford to, as my illness I can’t work as in and out of hospital, and don’t know where I’ll be how I feel one minute to the next. (Nina, 35 years old)
Difficult, but helpful if regular exercise is achieved. (Beverly, 35 years old)
It doesn’t help the BPD, but it helps a little with my depression. (Lynnea, 36 years old)
Going to the gym. (Amanda R., 37 years old)
Diet and exercise are two powerful tools. They didn’t seem to affect my symptoms though. (Charolette, 42 years old)
Was not eating much and then only a very limited diet with no exercise, now have learned to eat right and exercise is something I look forward to. (Missy, 42 years old)
I buy all exercise machines, but never get motivated to use them. I overeat one day, and promise to starve the next so I don’t gain weight. (Sarah, 44 years old)
I feel much better when I follow a healthy regimen. (Christi, 45 years old)

Borderline Personality Disorder Treatments

What’s been your experience with treatments (medication, therapy, etc.)?

CBT, anti depressants before they found out it wasn’t depression. (Tamara, 17 years old)
Not helpful. I find that professionals stigmatize me because of BPD, and I’ve never received the help I need, despite being diagnosed for three years now. (Shannon, 21 years old)
Medication makes me steadier, able to do things usually… it’s varied. Therapy over 6-7 years has done nothing. (Verity, 23 years old)
Medication doesn’t work. And I’ve been doing introduction to mentalization, and I don’t think it’s been helpful for me. (Sam, 23 years old)
No amount of therapy medication makes our experiences any easier or less difficult. I must use DBT daily and I am on a few different medications, but none that are specific for BPD. (Sophie, 25 years old)
Medication doesn’t work. (Kayleigh, 27 years old)
Therapy and dbt skills really help. I’ve had no medication. (Lisa, 29 years old)
Had two forms of therapy. During that time was brilliant and a few months after. Yet due to no support outside forgot things I learned and went back to my old ways. Medication – I’m on a lot of medication which has calmed me a lot to the point friends have seen a difference. (Emma, 31 years old)
Sometimes I go uphill and down again. (Lynette S., 31 years old)
Only been on meds, have had no help otherwise. It’s been too difficult to get. (Haylea, 32 years old)
Medication helped, but cut and DBT are key! DBT was really, really hard sometimes. If I could do it over I would have a better support system in place for while I was processing all my memories and experiences. (Jewel, 33 years old)
In therapy for about four years- it helped me a lot- discovered who I am. (MP, 35 years old)
I’m medication free, and deal with this without meds, but I have an airport worker and mental health team who are helpful. (Nina, 35 years old)
Meds, therapy, ECT with positive effects. (Beverly, 35 years old)
I have switched meds a lot. There is nothing really for BPD, but meds for depression and mood stabilizers can work. (Lynnea, 36 years old)
Anti-depressants, as therapy isn’t available in my area. (Amanda R., 37 years old)
Psychotherapy lasted two weeks. I’ve been on meds for 20 years. (Michelle, 39 years old)
I feel like a drug addict. I always relapse and fall back into old habits. I would like to see more invasive treatments for this condition. (Charolette, 42 years old)
CBT did slightly help with OCD, but not with over thinking, worrying or sleeplessness. Medication I don’t take as it didn’t make me feel good. (Sarah, 44 years old)
Several medications, therapy, hospitalization. (Christi, 45 years old)

Borderline Personality Disorder Recommendations

Anything you would recommend for someone with Borderline Personality Disorder?

Definitely CBT. (Tamara, 17 years old)
Communicate with your friends and with yourself. Constantly analyze yourself because no one else has the level of information to help you that you already know yourself. (Verity, 23 years old)
Being open about your feelings- why you think you are having them, and how they probably tie to the past. (Sam, 23 years old)
Never give up. No matter how many years of medication changes, hospitalizations, therapy sessions you have, you are worth the effort it takes. You are loved, and you are needed. (Sophie, 25 years old)
Stepps program is good. (Kayleigh, 27 years old)
Talk. Bottling things up makes them much worse later when you’ll be likely to do or say something you’ll regret. People aren’t mind readers and don’t know how you’re feeling unless you tell them. (Lisa, 29 years old)
Speak to your friends and family as much as you can, and seek support when struggling. (Emma, 31 years old)
You might suffer emotional pain, but you’re brave and you’ll survive. (Lynette S., 31 years old)
Look for help but don’t expect to have support all the time. Try and be independent. (Haylea, 32 years old)
Do DBT! Get into a support group! Lots of great ones online. (Jewel, 33 years old)
Find a good therapist, try them until you find a good one, one you can bond to, who can genuinely care about you, who has enough information about BPD, and doesn’t abandon you in your worst state when you’ll turn against him. (MP, 35 years old)
Take one day at a time. (Nina, 35 years old)
Research, when I found out I did a lot of research on it. Which helped me to understand why I did, and why I do certain things. Find a mental heath team that you like, that you feel gets you, and understands you. (Lynnea, 36 years old)
The borderline personality disorder for dummie’s book. (Amanda R., 37 years old)
Do the work. Because it’s all about you, and you doing the work. There is no quick fix. (Charolette, 42 years old)
Read books like Her by Felicia Johnson. (Missy, 42 years old)
Try to cope without meds. (Sarah, 44 years old)
Do not try to hold it all in, or minimize how your feeling. (Christi, 45 years old)

Borderline Personality Disorder Resources

What specific resources have you found most helpful?

Cahms. (Tamara, 17 years old)
My brain. (Verity, 23 years old)
Just looking online on helpful websites to learn about the disorder. (Sam, 23 years old)
The right support from mental health services, however, it is difficult to find the right support for such a condition. (Sophie, 25 years old)
Therapy, dbt, Facebook groups and friends with dbt. (Lisa, 29 years old)
Facebook support groups. (Haylea, 32 years old)
Online support groups. Lots of them on Facebook. Mindfulness. Friends or people who I could talk to who didn’t get scared when I talked about tough stuff. (Jewel, 33 years old)
Mindfulness, recognizing emotions. (MP, 35 years old)
None. (Nina, 35 years old)
Dialectable Behaviour Therapy Diary. (Amanda R., 37 years old)
Art therapy. Talking. Consistency. And taking charge of your own life. (Charolette, 42 years old)
Counseling and finding out about BPD. (Sarah, 44 years old)
Art therapy. (Christi, 45 years old)

Borderline Personality Disorder Stories

Share a story of a time you had a manic or depressive episode.

When I thought I was ugly so I curled up and screamed a voice to leave me alone because it was hurting me. (Tamara, 17 years old)
I’ve been taken by police to the hospital several times, but they never do anything. I got kicked out of my home by my mom. (Verity, 23 years old)
One day I had a very bad depressive episode where I badly wanted to hurt myself and my Fiancé was trying to stop me, so I slapped him as I fought against him to try and self harm. (Sophie, 25 years old)
Was severely depressed and locked myself in my house for weeks with no contact with anyone. I read a book about a guy wanting to kill himself legally abroad (assisted suicide). I was so depressed I got fake documents to say I had a terminal illness and applied for credit cards to pay for everything. I just wanted to die. It’s all I thought about 24/7. I took an overdose which obviously didn’t work. (Emma, 31 years old)
My last boyfriend who was a creep made me suffer so much- he got me in trouble. He made me suffer badly. He lied to me and my family. He really brought my BPD out. (Lynette S., 31 years old)
Rage, self harm, and having police called, but I couldn’t stop myself from self-destructing. (Haylea, 32 years old)
Last year (2016) was a year of mania and depression. I was up and down like a yo yo. Probably at least 20 suicide or overdose experiences, and lots of drinking. Traveling and staying in bed for days. It was a very hard year. The ups were amazing, the downs were horrible. I made it through it though :). (Jewel, 33 years old)
I was so depressed I couldn’t leave the house, I was lying in bed all day, cried a lot, wanted to kill myself and fantasized about that a lot but didn’t have enough energy to do anything. I felt so abandoned and not important to anyone. But before that I spent all my money on impulse, stole things for fun, and had a lot of one night stands with strangers. I guess it was one way to cover my void, and mask my depression. (MP, 35 years old)
Many times, no specific story. (Beverly, 35 years old)
I was bullied through out my School life, emotionally abused at home, and at 19 I was sacked from my dream job as my face didn’t fit, then I became severely depressed. (Amanda R., 37 years old)
I overdosed, and went to bed. (Michelle, 39 years old)
I don’t experience manic episodes, but the depressive episodes get the best of me. A lot of times I feel like I’m drifting further from me and reality. (Christi, 45 years old)