Ideas for teaching social skills - Parenting Video Transcripts
Video 1 Transcript
The best way for your kids to learn that is to teach them at home. Once a week, maybe have a dinner night. Show them with the proper etiquette on how to use cutlery. You know, knives and forks and things like that. Spoons, where you put your knife on the plate. Also, you know, there's a bread plate. There's a salad plate. There's a certain way you have to use your spoon and soup. Stuff like that and how you drink. Also, social skills on how you interact with one another. And how you also, you know, interact online. Those kind of things you got to teach your children at home before they go out. And in practice, once a week. It's your house. You know, ain't nobody going to see it. So, that's just something I found still out there to you. I learned all of that stuff in the 1970s. Except for online just recently. Alright, take care.
Video 2 Transcript
Brain Rules for Baby is a great book and it taught me that if you see a child having a tantrum, if you name the emotion, then they'll quiet down very quickly. But you have to know about emotions. So I went through this like personal development introspection process. I created these sentences about feelings. Okay, so here they are. We feel sad when we lose something. We feel angry when someone hurts us. We feel infuriated when we see injustice. We feel embarrassed when we do something that is less mature than we think we are. We feel disappointed when our expectations don't meet reality. We feel afraid when we think we're in danger. We feel discouraged when we don't think we have the resources to do something. We feel annoyed when something is too loud or repetitive.
Video 3 Transcript
The magical phrase for when somebody is mad at you works on everybody. It works on my mom, my kids, works on me. Here it is. I'm sorry. I don't want to hurt you. Will you forgive me? When someone tells me that they don't want to hurt me, it's like, oh, okay, we can just talk about this. I don't need to be offensive. The phrase doesn't admit guilt. Will you forgive me? The person needs to forgive you whether or not you think you were wrong. The person still needs to forgive if they're mad. Sometimes you did want to hurt them, but not anymore. When you calm down and you can say, I'm sorry, I don't want to hurt you in this moment, but you don't say that. If my kids can can get this phrase out sincerely, then the other person always forgives them. Usually. They usually forgive each other, hug, and go off to play.
Video 4 Transcript
Children demand something, I get offended, but I've trained myself to say, I'll let you try again politely. Or, can you ask me a polite question? Children should be polite, but you should be polite in asking them to be polite. Anyway, I'll let you try again politely.
Video 5 Transcript
One of the things most people have a problem with when they hear that you homeschool, immediately they form an opinion that your children must be anti-social if they're not in a school with 2,000 other children. That is completely opposite of what we've experienced with our children as we've homeschooled them the last 14 years. They're very social because they're around old people, young people. We have a huge family, we have a lot of children, so naturally our home creates a social environment that's just natural and organic each day. But social skills are very important. I think one of the greatest things besides school or formal education is encouraging our children to get out in public and hold jobs and work and be around the public. I think a lot of times that's undermined, but to me having a job and working is one of the greatest ways to teach our children to be social. Working with a variety of people each day, it's incredibly important.
