Ideas for teaching resilience - Parenting Video Transcripts
Video 1 Transcript
Sometimes kids look for confirmation of their worth by the ways people treat them. If they're served last at dinner, they wonder if they're loved least. If they don't get their favorite thing, like if somebody else got their favorite thing, maybe they're loved more. So this is my phrase. You are important. Going upstairs is important. Going upstairs first is not important. It affirms their worth, but also removes this stumbling block to our daily life. Here's another one. You are important. Spoons are important. Having the pink spoon every meal is not important. I like to use this phrase on toddlers who are learning things like zipping or buttoning. I say, try three times, and then I'll do it for you. Sometimes they get it, and they feel so awesome. Even if they don't get it, their practicing makes their little fingers stronger. Kids with fine motor skills do better in school, and if you have a mindset of practicing trying, it will spill over into your other lives.
Video 2 Transcript
For teaching kids resilience, sometimes it's life. Life can throw you a thousand curveballs and you just have to be there for them. Make sure that when the bad things happen, that you're right there to support them. That you will go to the ends of the earth to make sure that they are safe and that they know that you are right there and they will power through. Kids are tough, but you need to be tougher and when bad things happen, make sure that they know you are their hero and they can get through this. That's how you teach resilience.
Video 3 Transcript
For my husband and I, teaching resilience has been a really, really important, valuable thing that we've wanted to instill in our children. And the way we've tried to achieve this is just creating experiences that have stretched and helped our children grow in a lot of ways. We've encouraged them to do really hard things. We've encouraged them to work at young ages. We've encouraged them to go on humanitarian trips. We've had five children that have served international missions that have been very, very difficult. And that has stretched and grown them in ways that have just been profound. As a family, we don't try to take the easy path. We do hard things. My husband and I try to lead out in those measures and show by example that we can do hard things through Jesus Christ who strengthens us. And so, yeah, resiliency is the key principle, especially in the world we live in right now with everything going on.
Video 4 Transcript
I think the best way to teach your child to be resilient is by giving them experiences where they do hard things. I think one of the best things you can give your children is the confidence that they can do hard things. So some hard things you might do with them is a hike where there's no choice but to hike, you know, to a location and back. Another thing you could do would be to walk to school in, you know, the rain and the cold just to help them to not stop doing things only because it's uncomfortable, but to help them be comfortable doing uncomfortable things. If they want something to help them to work for it. I feel like we pamper our children nowadays and there's a lot of value in teaching them hard work, kind of like people did on the farm back in the day.
Video 5 Transcript
I have two phrases for teaching children resilience. The first one is, it's just a mistake. It's what we do when we make a mistake. We shrug, and then we figure out how to move forward. The other phrase that we have is, bronze, keep trying. This is not that bronze never give up, because sometimes we do, but we keep trying. And when a child is in a situation where they need to keep trying, I'm really happy. I go, yeah, you're a bronze. You keep trying. So I praise trying again. And I think that will get them farther than them thinking that they're smart or thinking that they make it look easy. I like it when my children think for themselves and make their own guess, even if it might be wrong. So when they ask me things like, how to spell things, or I don't know, when they answer a question, I say, guess and I'll tell you. And they guess, and I tell them. And I react the same way, whether their answer is right or wrong. I like wrong answers. I think that kids learn when they give wrong answers.
